Messy Sex began in Greece with a fig. A zine of erotic poetry by Madison Grace, we share a few of them in this blog.

I was assigned the sex of female at birth and curiously, what ‘type’ of genitalia I have matters. This is because I present as a gender non-conforming person; my appearance confuses you. The rush of eyes is palpable as you scan me from short hair, to flat chest, to ‘birthing’ hips. Curiously it’s also important to mention that I don’t feel that I am a man and I don’t feel that I am a woman. Ergo, I am neither and both. Some days I am more man than woman, and vice versa.

Vanessa Muradian gives us the low down on female ejaculation, what the fluid actually is, where it comes from and dismantles the shame people experience with ejaculating, squirting or gushing.

Madison Grace takes us on a vulnerable journey through moments of embracing their queerness. Madi shares through an erotic and heart-centred lens - the nuances of becoming one’s self reflected alongside Foucault’s queer theory.

Activist, feminist, writer, poet, lesbian, mother Audre Lorde’s pivitol text on the innate power of our inherent eroticism. This woman dedicated her life and incredible creativity and talent to the civil rights movement and fought against sexism, classism, racism and homophobia passionately. Read these words, they are not to pass you by.

Lesbian lovers come together to share their sexy and practical tips on what makes for body-blowing, highly erotic and sensual oral sex.

A poetic meditation on eroticism and the re-culturing of sexuality by Shannon May Powell. They explore the ways that an erotic relationship to the self, to others, and to the world, isn’t just about sex. Instead, they suggest, we might expand our understanding of sensuality and sexuality by becoming sensitive to ‘the small ecstasies we encounter in daily life; the way our bodies open up to the architecture of a beautifully designed room, or the way our skin can sometimes quiver in response to live music.’

The idea of the ever elusive g-spot is no more, science has realised that the CUV (clitourethrovaginal) complex is imperative in pleasure and orgasm for people with vaginas. The ‘g-spot’ is one part of this complex and Vanessa Muradian shares with us about it all.

Eva Rose asks us to look at how we do our activism, off the backbone of the #challengeaccepted movement on social media which drew global awareness around the atrocious femicide that happens in Turkey — but only for those who looked at the deeper meaning of the ‘challenge’.

Eva Rose shares with us her experience of being an ally for the Black Lives Matter movement and Indigenous rights and sovereignty in Australia and the work she is doing to check her white privilige. Join her in dismantling white supremacy, with understanding and honour.

Madi Pawle explores how we bring ritual to a task-oriented day and how we make the everyday sacred and sensual.

For cis-women the arousal principal helps us to realise that the majority of us need a stimulus for sex, we don’t just arouse spontaneously! Read this article and share it with your lovers for more understanding about foreplay and arousal.

Vanessa Muradian, sexologist and founder of Mia Muse, explores the multifaceted benefits of masturbation — whether it alone, or with another person as part of your sex-life.

A poetic musing on moments of silence and stillness during sex. Madison Pawle looks out to the wider culture for clues as to why we might feel the need to perform our pleasure, rather than letting it be the dynamic, every-changing journey it is.

Forget the g-spot alone, the clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex is where it’s at for pleasure and orgasm with a vagina. Vanessa Muradian shares with us their expertise on orgasmic anatomy.